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Why love is overstatement and breakup is understatement!

Ever wondered why the world seems to exaggerate romance like it's the best thing that has happened to mankind?
Be it the countless movies glorifying the act of falling or being in love with the number of romance writers who make the singles feel almost miserable.
There are perhaps thousands of songs about love too.
Put the numbers aside and just imagine how many people depend upon this whole idea to earn their livelihood!
Maybe love is literally in the air. It's all around us.
Sometimes to the extent that it's choking us, all.
This beautiful feeling is often accompanied by setbacks, disappointments, challenges, etc. And it's not like 'When the going gets tough, the tough get going.'
People who have experienced heartbreaks or have been cheated on or fall out of love never tend to go all out in public.
Why?
When you were in a relationship, you are proud of your partner, you're happy.
You'd post pictures with them, of them, and let the whole world know what a fantastic feeling it is but when the unfathomable happens you disappear, mostly.
I would never come across a person who'd let the same world know about their breakups.
Why let someone know when you're happy but not let them know when you're sad or falling apart?
Why glorify or hype one side of the story and hide the other?
Why can't a heartbreak ever be thought of as a beautiful experience?
An experience that has enlightened you, helped you grow, rise up again, and not be afraid of experiencing the same feeling again, with a different person.
It is not just loved.
We tend to overstate only a part of the experiences in life and completely overlook the darker side of things.
Why are winners celebrated and losers critiqued? Why are achievers felicitated and failures looked down upon? Why are birthdays happy and funerals sad?
Why is love an overstatement and heartbreak an understatement?

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